但負責任並不意味著罪惡感（responsibility does not mean guilt）。
Be aware of what you have done, and then be honest about it.
Be honest about the outcomes you know very well that you have produced.
Then choose to take responsibility for them.
This is the third tool. It is a sign of great maturity, great spiritual growth.
You will never want to do this, however, as long as your society equates responsibility with punishment.
Too often in the past, taking responsibility has meant "taking a fall."
But responsibility does not mean guilt.
Rather, it means a willingness to do whatever you can to make the outcomes you produce the best they can possibly be,
and to do what it takes to remedy whatever can be remedied, should others choose to experience the outcomes as damaging in any way.