聽神談【「自殺」的定義與結果、如何安慰】
要將一個死亡定義為自殺需要兩個條件：
1、你必須知道自己在做什麼——也就是說，你必須是有意識地選擇了死亡。
2、你是為了逃避——而不是完成——你的人生，而選擇了死亡。
這對話的目的之一就是幫你接觸你物質人生的神聖面，和幫助你瞭解：存在於肉體中的生命，是一個無以言喻的巨大禮物（life in the body is a gift of unspeakalbe proportions）。
我之前提到死亡是個力量強大的創造時刻，它的確是。但它是用來「到達」某種完成，而不是從完成某事途中「逃脫」。
尼爾：自殺會引發出如此多的傷痛，我幾乎都不想提起這個話題。首先是經受混亂、決定結束自己生命的當事人的傷痛，再來是其親人的傷痛。關於這部分，有什麼可以給人帶來點安慰嗎？
可以從了解自殺者一切安好來獲得安慰。他們很好。他們被神愛著，神從來沒有遺棄他們。他們只是沒有完成他們原本打算去做的事(not have achieved what they set out to do)。對所有關心和考慮想自殺者的人來說，理解這一點非常重要。
尼爾：你是說自殺的人不會受到任何的懲罰？
在死後生命中沒有「懲罰」這種東西。受痛苦懲罰的，其實是那些留在人世的人。他們經受了重大打擊，許多人從此一蹶不振。他們都感受到巨大的失落感，許多人在自責中度過餘生。他們苛問自己哪裡做錯了，承受著自責的痛苦，埋怨自己本來可以改變這一切。
悲哀的是，那些結束自己生命的人以為自己的死亡能夠讓情況改變，結果卻發現並非如此。
為了逃避某些情境而結束自己的生命，並無法帶來任何解脫。 要知道，如果你以為結束自己的生命可以逃避什麼，我再說一遍，你只是企圖在做一件你根本無法做成的事。
想擺脫痛苦的願望很正常，這是人生之舞的一部分。然而，這舞蹈是靈魂進入身體來體驗的事物，而不是來逃避的。
因此，離開物質生命不能幫你逃避任何事，只會將你再次置於物質生命，並進入你試圖逃避的情境……而且你會再次回到該起點。
摘自《與神談生死》第10章
Two conditions must exist in order to classify a death as a suicide.
1. You must be aware of what you are doing--that is, you must be making a conscious choice to die.
2. You must be making the choice to die for the purpose of escaping, rather than completing, your life.
One purpose of this conversation is to help you get in touch with the sacredness of your physical life; to assist you in coming to understand that life in the body is a gift of unspeakable proportions.
I said earlier that death is a powerful moment of creation, and it is. But it is designed for going TO something, not for escaping FROM something.
Neale: There's so much pain attached to suicide that I almost didn't want to bring this subject up. That pain is felt first, of course, by the person going through the turmoil that led to the decision to end his or her life, and then by the family of that person. Can there be any place of comfort in all of this--for anyone?
Comfort may come from knowing that the person who has committed suicide is all right. They are okay. They are loved and they are never forsaken by God. They will simply not have achieved what they set out to do. That is important for anyone who is contemplating suicide to understand.
Neale: Are you saying that those who commit suicide are not punished in any way?
There is no such thing as "punishment" in what you call the Afterlife. It is those who are left behind who are punished. They experience an incredible shock, from which some never fully recover. All of them feel an enormous loss. Many spend the rest of their lives blaming themselves.
They wonder what they did wrong, they agonize over what they could have said that might have changed things.
The sad thing is that those who end their own life imagine that they are going to change things, and they are not.
Ending your life in order to escape something does not create a situation in which you escape anything. If you are thinking of ending your life in order to avoid something, you should know, I say again, that you are contemplating something that you cannot do.
A wish to avoid that which is painful is normal. It is all part of the human dance. However, in this particular self or himself away from something that the soul has come to the body to experience, not to escape.
You will face your creations wherever you go, and you cannot escape them--nor do you wish to, because you have created your creations in order to recreate yourself.
