聽神談【為何「尊重你的真實感受」如此重要？】
在關係裡，你所從事面對的是「靈魂的工作」，然而那是一項重大的理解，一個盛大的憶起。直到你憶起這一點，並且憶起如何利用「關係」為創造自己的一項工具的那一刻前，你仍然必須在你目前的層面——理解的層面、願意的層面、憶起的層面上努力。
因此，當你對別人的所是、所說或所做的感到痛苦或傷痛時，表示你還有些可練習去做的事。首先是：對你自己及對別人誠實地承認你的真實感覺如何.....
你必須尊重你的感受。因為尊重你的感受意味著尊重你的較高自我(Self)。而 且你必須愛你的鄰人如你愛自己一樣。如果你無法尊重你內在較高自我的感受，你又如何能期待去了解和尊重別人的感受呢？
在與別人的互動過程裡，第一個問題是：現在「我是誰」，而在我與那互動的情境關係中，我想成為誰(想展現什麼樣的我)？
往往你不記得「你是誰」，並且不知道「你想成為誰」，直到你嘗試了好幾種being(所處、所是)的方式。那就是為什麼尊重你最真實的感受是如此的重要。
如果你的第一個感覺是個負面的感覺，光是「有那感覺」這點，往往就足以讓你遠離它了。因為當你有那憤怒、有那不悅、有那厭惡、有那怒氣、坦承你想「傷害回去」的感覺時，你才能斷絕掉那些你先前感覺為「不是你想成為的你是誰」。
摘自《與神對話 1》第8章
It is Soul Work you are up to in relationship, yet that is a grand understanding, a grand remembering. Until you remember this—and remember then also how to use relationship as a tool in the creation of Self—you must work at the level at which you are. The level of understanding, the level of willingness, the level of remembrance.
And so there are things you can do when you react with pain and hurt to what another is being, saying, or doing. The first is to admit honestly to yourself and to another exactly how you are feeling......
You must honor your feeling. For honoring your feelings means honoring your Self. And you must love your neighbor as you love yourself. How can you ever expect to understand and honor the feelings of another if you cannot honor the feelings within your Self?
The first question in any interactive process with another is: now Who Am I, and Who Do I Want to Be, in relationship to that?
Often you do not remember Who You Are, and do not know Who You Want to Be until you try out a few ways of being. That is why honoring your truest feelings is so important.
If your first feeling is a negative feeling, simply having the feeling is frequently all that is needed to step away from it. It is when you have the anger, have the upset, have the disgust, have the rage, own the feeling of wanting to "hurt back," that you can disown these first feelings as "not Who You Want to Be."
