你只會以「你給神的愛」的方式接受「神給你的愛」(You can only receive God's love in the way that you give God yours.)。
尼爾：我想，對人際關係而言，也真是這樣(this is true of human relationships as well)。
你無法體驗你不容許別人去體驗的東西(You cannot experience what you do not allow others to experience.)。而這點將帶我們進另一議題：嫉妒。
(Understand that its purpose has nothing to do with what you get out of it, and everything to do with what you put into it.)
這並不需要對你人生中的其他人——或任何特定的人——要求任何東西才能做到。這就是為何你們能夠對別人無所需求地愛他們(That is why you can love others without requiring anything of them.)。
You can only receive God's love in the way that you give God yours.
Neale: I suppose this is true of human relationships as well.
Of course. You can only receive another's love in the way that you give them yours. They can love you their way as long as they want. You can only receive it your way.
You cannot experience what you do not allow others to experience.
And that brings us to the last element in this answer: jealousy.
Out of your decision to love God jealously, you have created the myth of a God who loves jealously.
Neale: Wait a minute. You're saying we are jealous of You?
Where do you think the idea of a jealous God came from?
You have tried as hard as you can to co-opt My love.
You have tried to be the sole owner. You have laid claim to Me, and done so viciously. You have declared that I love you, and only you. You are the chosen people, you are the nation under God, you are the one true church! And you are very jealous of this standing that you have bestowed upon yourself. If someone claims that God loves all people equally, accepts all faiths, embraces every nation, you call that blasphemy. You say it is a blasphemy for God to love in any way other than the way you say God loves.
Neale: George Bernard Shaw said that all great truths begin as blasphemies.
He was right. This jealousy-ridden kind of love is not the way that I love, yet this is the way that you have perceived My love, because this is the way that you have loved Me.
This is also the way you have loved each other, and it is killing you. I mean that literally. You have been known to kill each other, or yourselves, because of your jealousies.
If you love another person, you tell them that they must love you, and only you. If they love another person, you become jealous. And this is not where it begins and ends. For you are not only jealous of other people, you are jealous of jobs, of hobbies, of children, of anything that takes the focus of your loved one away from you. Some of you are jealous of a dog, or a game of golf.
Jealousy takes many forms, it has many faces. Not a one of them is beautiful.
Get rid of your idea that happiness depends on anything outside of yourself, and you will get rid of jealousy. Get rid of your thought that love is about what you get in trade for what you give, and you will get rid of jealousy. Get rid of your claim on any other person's time or energy or resources or love, and you will get rid of jealousy.
Neale: Yes, but how do I do that?
Live your life for a new reason. Understand that its purpose has nothing to do with what you get out of it, and everything to do with what you put into it.
This is also true of relationships.
The purpose of life is to create your Self anew, in the next grandest version of the greatest vision ever you held about Who You Are. It is to announce and become, express and fulfill, experience and know your true Self.
This requires nothing of the other people in your life— or any other person in particular. That is why you can love others without requiring anything of them.
The idea of being jealous of the time that those you love spend playing golf, or working at the office, or in the arms of another is an idea that can only occur to you if you imagine that your own happiness is compromised when the one that you love is happy.