聽神談【關係的「找尋」與「創造」】2/2 篇
如果你認為，一個關係的目的，是為了「找到」某樣東西，那麼，你就會繼續尋找它。你將不會「體驗到」它在你之內，因為如果它「在你之內」，你就不會試著「在你之外」找尋它。因此，你會對外尋找───那就是，在你稱為你愛的人那裡尋找它。
另一方面，如果你把一個關係的目的，視為「為了創造」某個東西，那麼，你將會把你所希望體驗的，帶到那個關係裡。你將視你自己為「你選擇想要創造」的源頭，因為，任何東西的創造者，即是其源頭 (the creator of anything IS the Source) 。
尼爾：多迷人的觀點啊！
這其實只是個一般常識。 (It′s really just common sense.)
然而，你剛才所謂的「大多數人持有的觀念」，並沒有這個「一般常識」。事實上，那個「大多數人持有的觀念」比任何其它的觀念，更容易導致一個關係的結束。
大多數人從「對外尋求」的經驗中來獲得他們的快樂，包括───或許尤其是───浪漫「關係」的體驗。
摘自《走出靈性文盲》第6章
If you think that the purpose of a relationship is to "find" something, then you will be continually looking for it. You won't experience that it's in- side you, because you wouldn't be trying to find it if it were inside you.
So you will be looking for it outside you—namely, in the person that you call your beloved.
If, on the other hand, you think that the purpose of a relationship is to "create" something, then you will be bringing to the relationship what it is that you wish to experience there.
You will see yourself as the source of what you choose to create, because the creator of anything IS the Source.
Neale: What a fascinating perspective.
It's really just common sense.
The idea that you say most of humanity holds, however, is not common sense. In fact, that idea brings more relationships to an end than any other single thought.
Most people are looking for something outside themselves to make them happy, and that includes—perhaps especially—the experience of relationship.
