Neale: So how can I best deal with all the pressures I am facing?
Learn to "feel" the difference between "good" pressure and "bad" pressure, between useful pressure and useless pressure.
Useful pressure is the intensification of your own desire to be, do, or have something that you, yourself, have chosen to be, do, or have.
Useless pressure is the anxiety that results from your need to be approved of by someone else. Never do anything to please another.
Neale: That's a pretty radical statement!
It sounds more radical than it really is. There are many times in life when it will please you to please another. In that case, do it. Only when it does not please you to please another should you refrain from doing it.
It always pleases you to please another when you and the other share the same self-interest. In other words, when you both want the same thing.
The trick is to look at what another person wants, and what you want, and examine those things closely. If you examine them very closely, you will be surprised how often you will find something in what the other person desires that you desire also.
It is in finding those areas where you hold mutual interest that the elimination of "bad" pressure is accomplished. When you find common ground, you lose grounds for anger.
Remember that always: When you find common ground, you lose grounds for anger.
All of a sudden it becomes clear to you that you are doing something, not just because someone else wants you to do it, but because you want to do it, for reasons that benefit you.
Give an example.
You mean like, getting paid. That's one reason. There could be others. Payment comes in many forms. As does profit.
Remember that always: Profit comes in many forms.