巴夏精選短片(3分15秒)【建立自我價值、賦予自己力量的首要關鍵】Bashar701

 

 

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Another question that's come up has to do with self-worth.
下一個提問是有關「自我價值」的問題。

Yes.
好的。

Many people find on their journey that they think they have achieved a certain level of self-evaluation,
不少人在他們的人生旅程中認為他們對自己的自我評價已經達到了某一水平。

Yes.
好的。

and then they will find a circumstance comes up that triggers them to devalue themselves or to feel that they have really not accomplished a full recognition of their self-worth.
而他們會接著發現一個「觸發他們去貶低自己或感到自己真的還沒有達到一種對自己價值的完全認同」的情況發生。

All right, well, the first and most paradoxical thing to remember when confronted with issues of lack of self-worth, is first and foremost to own it as a choice that you made in experiencing that idea,
好的。嗯，當遭遇到有關「缺乏自我價值」的問題時，要記住的第一件事，也是最看似矛盾卻是首要關鍵的事就是：接納它，視它為一種「為了體驗那概念你所做出的選擇」來擁有它。

Because the second you own it, instead of regretting that it's coming up, you are empowered to deal with it, empowered to do something to change it.
因為在你接納它——而不是懊悔它的發生——的那一刻，你便已擁有了可去面對它、做出改變它的力量。

So it's only the denial of the fact that it comes up, the resistance to the fact that it comes up that actually makes it stick around and reoccur.
因此，實際上讓它揮之不去並又再發生的，只是(你不斷在)「否定它發生」的這一事實、「排斥它發生」的這個事實。

Remember that many people, even when they deal with certain issues of self-worth, may test themselves to make sure they have changed.
請記住，許多人在處理有關「自我價值」的特定議題時仍可能會測試自己來確認自己已經改變了。

So, if you test yourself and trigger yourself by attracting a situation that makes you to face the idea that you may not still allow yourself to feel worthy,
因此，如果你(較高心智的你)測試自己並觸發自己去吸引一個「讓你面對你可能仍然無法允許自己感到值得的想法」的情境，

then you are still reacting the same old way.
在那情境下，你還用舊的模式在反應。

You're testing yourself to see if you're going to change and respond differently even if that gets triggered.
(較高心智的)你在測試自己，看自己即使在被觸發時是否會改變並以不同的方式回應。

But the first step toward getting around that is to not deny or resist that it came up, but to acknowledge that you chose it.
但通往那做出不同回應的第一步是：不去否認或抗拒那情境的發生，而是去承認那境況是你做的選擇。

Because by acknowledging that you chose to experience lack of self-worth, again, that keeps you in the seat of self-empowerment,
因為藉由認知到是你(在另一意識層面)選擇去「體驗缺乏自我價值」，可以再次地讓你保持在「賦於自己力量」的位子上，

to be able to explore and do something about changing it.
讓自己能夠去探索並做出一些有關改變的事。

And with enough practice, you will get used to the idea that you no longer need to do that,
而經由足夠的練習，你會習慣於自己不再需要那樣做(體驗缺乏自我價值)。

Because you will finally hone the skill of owning whatever comes up instead of resisting whatever comes up.
因為最終你會熟練「接納而不(再)是抗拒任何發生的事物」的技巧。

Because remember as we have said several times, it's not about what you experience in terms of what happens, it's about what you do with that experience that makes the difference in your world.
因為如同我們已經說過很多次的：就「你的世界中所發生的事情」的角度(的意義和目的)而言，重點不在於你「體驗了什麼」，而是「在那體驗下你做出了什麼」(即：重點的核心不在那情境和體驗，而是你在那情境中你所做出、所展現的思言行)。

So the first step always is to never deny or resist what happens, but to own it as something that can serve you in a positive way to know that there's a reason that it's there.
所以第一步永遠是：絕不去否認或抗拒外在發生的事情，而是把它當成一件「可以以一種正向的方式在幫助你的事情」來接納它，明白那事情的發生是有原因的。

And that puts you back in the driver seat and gives you the self-empowerment under control to explore in a more positive, creative and inspirational way,
這會讓你保持在「賦於自己力量」的位子上，拿回主控權，並以一種更正向、更具創意並更有啟發性的方式去探索，

and to actually have some fun with exploring why you would have chosen to trigger yourself in that way.
並在你探尋自己「為何以那樣的方式觸發自己」的過程中，實際地擁有更多的樂趣。

And then more answers will come up, more ideas will surface, and you'll be on a different journey with that experience at that moment.
而這會讓更多的答案跑出來、更多的想法浮現出來，而你會在那當下以那樣的體驗，踏上一種不同的人生旅程。

So, owning it, and not resisting it, is the first step.
因此，接納它而不抗拒它，是首要的第一步。