Neale: an You help me here? Is it good to have an ego, or not?
That's a big question.
You've entered the relative world—what I call the Realm of the Relative—in order to experience what you cannot experience in the Realm of the Absolute. What you seek to experience is Who You Really Are. In the Realm of the Absolute, you can know this, but you cannot experience it. The desire of your soul is to know itself experientially. The reason that you cannot experience any aspect of Who You Are in the Realm of the Absolute is that in this realm, there is no aspect you are not.
The Absolute is just that—the absolute. The All of Everything. The Alpha and the Omega, with nothing in between. There are no degrees of "Absoluteness." Degrees of things can only exist in the Relative.
The Realm of the Relative was created so that you can know your Self as magnificent, experientially. In the Realm of the Absolute, there is nothing but magnificence, and so magnificence "is not." That is, it cannot be experienced, it cannot be known experientially, because there is no way to experience magnificence in the absence of that which is not magnificent. In truth, you are One with everything. That is your magnificence! Yet you cannot know the magnificence of being One with everything while you are One with everything, because there is nothing else, and so, being One with everything means nothing. In your experience, you are simply "you," and you have no experience of the magnificence of that.
The only way for you to experience the magnificence of being One with everything is for there to be some state or condition in which not being One with everything is possible. Yet since everything is One in the Realm of the Absolute—which is the ultimate reality—something not being One with everything is impossible.
What is not impossible, however, is the illusion of not being One with everything, It was for the purpose of creating this illusion, then, that the Realm of the Relative was created. It is like an Alice-in-Wonderland world, in which things are not what they seem to be, and in which things seem to be what they are not.
Your ego is your chief tool in creating this illusion. It is that device which allows you to imagine your Self as separate from All the Rest of You. It is the part of you that thinks of you as being an individual.
You are not an individual, yet you must be individualized in order to comprehend and appreciate the experience of the whole. And so in this sense, it is "good" to have an ego. Given what you are trying to do, it is "good."
Yet too much ego is—given what you are trying to do— "not good." That's because what you are trying to do is use the illusion of separateness to better comprehend and appreciate the experience of Oneness, which is Who You Really Are.
When the ego becomes so enlarged that all you can see is the separate Self, all chance of experiencing the unified Self is gone, and you are lost. You have literally become lost in the world of your illusion, and you may remain lost in that illusion for many lifetimes, until you finally bring your Self out of it, or until somebody else—another soul-pulls you out. This is what is meant by "giving you back to yourself." This is what the Christian churches meant by their concept of a "savior." The only mistake those churches made was in declaring themselves and their religions to be the only way to be "saved," thus reinforcing once again the illusion of separateness—the very illusion from which they would seek to save you!
So, you ask if it is good to have an ego, and that is a very large question. It all depends on what you are trying to do.
If you are using the ego as a tool with which to ultimately experience the Only Reality, it is good. If the ego is using you to stop you from experiencing that reality, then it is not good. To the degree that it is stopping you from doing what you came here to do, it is "not good."
Yet you are always at free choice about what you remain here to do. If you find it enjoyable to not experience your Self as part of the One, you will be given the choice of not having that experience just now. Only when you've had enough of the separateness, enough of the illusion, enough of the loneliness and the painfulness, will you seek to find your way home, and then you will find that I will be there—that I have always been there.
In All Ways.