當人們自然的情緒長期被壓抑，會變成不自然的反應和回應。人們會因此而殺人，而引發戰爭，而毀城滅國。 而大部分的自然情緒在大部分人身上是受到壓抑的(Most natural emotions are repressed in most people.)。然而，這些情緒卻是你們的朋友。它們是你們的禮物。它們是你們用來雕塑你們的經驗的神聖工具。
原因是：你們用不適當的人在做育兒的工作(you have the wrong people doing the parenting 用不適和的人在做為人父母教導孩子的工作。)。
尼爾：母親和父親是養育孩子不適當的人選？(The mother and the father are the wrong people to raise the children?)
沒有人比年輕的父母更不適宜養育小孩(No one is more ill-equipped to raise children than young parents.)。順便一提，沒有人比年輕的父母更了解這一點。
他們甚至對「自己是誰」都還沒有發現，而他們卻在試圖告訴你「你是誰」。但要把這些都搞定的壓力是如此巨大——然而他們甚至連自己的生活都無法「搞定」。因此，他們把整個生活都曲解了(they get the whole thing wrong)——他們的生活，以及他們孩子的生活。
And so it is that the natural emotions, when repressed, produce unnatural reactions and responses. And most natural emotions are repressed in most people. Yet these are your friends. These are your gifts. These are your divine tools, with which to craft your experience.
You are given these tools at birth. They are to help you negotiate life.
Neale: Why are these emotions repressed in most people?
They have been taught to repress them. They have been told to.
Neale: By whom?
Their parents. Those who have raised them.
Neale: Why? Why would they do that?
Because they were taught by their parents, and their parents were told by theirs.
Neale: Yes, yes. But why? What is going on?
What is going on is that you have the wrong people doing the parenting.
Neale: What do you mean? Who are the "wrong people"?
The mother and the father.
Neale:The mother and the father are the wrong people to raise the children?
When the parents are young, yes. In most cases, yes. In fact, it's a miracle that so many of them do as good a job as they do.
No one is more ill-equipped to raise children than young parents. And no one knows this, by the way, better than young parents.
Most parents come to the job of parenting with very little life experience. They're hardly finished being par- ented themselves. They're still looking for answers, still searching for clues.
They haven't even discovered themselves yet, and they're trying to guide and nurture discovery in others even more vulnerable than they. They haven't even defined themselves, and they're thrust into the act of defining others. They are still trying to get over how badly they have been mis-defined by their parents.
They haven't even discovered yet Who They Are, and they're trying to tell you who you are. And the pressure is so great for them to get it right—yet they can't even get their own lives "right." So they get the whole thing wrong—their lives, and the lives of their children.